How do I tell my friend to stop checking her phone while driving?
October 9, 2013 7:02 AM Subscribe
My friend checks her email constantly while driving. How do I get her to stop?
posted by anonymous to human relations (33 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I ride as a passenger in a car with my roommate about 5 times a week. She and I drive to work together, and this is my only mode of transportation to work. The trip is about 10-15 minutes in the car, along a main road that is pretty twisty. We also drive through a busy college campus. We are both in our 30s.
My problem is that she checks the email program on her phone constantly while she drives - just refreshing the page. Her eyes are not on the road and I think this is dangerous. I also don't understand the point; we will be at a computer in 15 minutes, so in my mind there is no reason to even look at a phone. I don't usually look at my phone during the ride, for example.
We have talked about driving and texting and she is really against it. I don't think she realizes that looking at her email is the same thing. She is really sensitive and I am worried that asking her to stop is just going to upset her. How can I approach this kindly and make her stop this behavior (ideally always, but at least when I'm a passenger)?
This is part of a larger problem where she constantly has her nose in her phone and doesn't seem to realize it. She talks a lot about how rude it is when people check their phones in company but is the only one in our friend group that is constantly looking at her phone when we are socializing. So there seems to be a larger disconnect here - she doesn't seem to realize that she is always on her phone, even while she is driving.