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September 29, 2013 8:24 PM Subscribe
How have significant others helped you while you were under exam pressure ?
posted by oink to human relations (12 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Sister is currently studying for IB exams (held in five weeks).
We live one hour apart and I visit her weekly bringing her groceries etc.
Recent conversation was full of uncharacteristic pessimism: sadness (at the thought of not doing as well as she hopes), anxiety, hopelessness and fatigue. She is very bright, in the gifted program and usually very happy. This legarthy affects her studies: does not know where to start, panics, does nothing for the day, feels guilty and repeats. Parents not in the picture and I am the only one close to her.
I've tentatively raised the possibility of depression and she flat out refuses to see anyone nor consider medication/ therapy (associates them negatively with a family member in the past with severe depression).
We are very close and it tears me up to see her like this. I've tried helping her plan out a study schedule, prepare her meals (she's not eating right), drive her to tutors and letting her talk/ vent to me as much as possible. Also have tried to back off and just let her know I am here if she needs anything.
Is there anything else I could do?
Were there anything otheres did for you during stressful times that really help you?