How can I help my mother out of an abusive relationship?
August 15, 2013 7:02 AM Subscribe
My mother needs help leaving a bad situation. What do I do?
posted by anonymous to human relations (9 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I live several states away from my family and I'm very worried about my mother. She sent me a text saying "Can I come stay with you? I have to get out of here. I have no where else to go". She then followed that text with a picture of a large bruise. I am very concerned and obviously would love for her to come stay and told her as much.
Unfortunately, my mother has a history of not being able to leave abusive relationships. It's taken us years to disengage from my father, even after an event in which he almost accidentally shot my brother. This was even after the years of them fighting, infidelity, abusive "punishments", and general mistreatment. With her current partner my mother texts my younger brother who lives with her to pack his bags and barricade himself in his room until she comes home and they can leave. Then she won't come home, won't answer phone calls, and it's just a nightmare. Eventually she comes home, refuses to talk about the night before, and acts like nothing is wrong.
I don't know what to do. I'm very scared and worried for her and my brothers safety. What can I do to help best? How can I communicate with her the seriousness of her situation and how do I support her if she chooses to stay?