One-on-one dinner with boss after meeting
June 20, 2013 2:31 PM Subscribe
My boss and I went to a meeting yesterday. He invited me for a bite afterwards and I initially said "no, not if you have other things to do". He said he didn't, so by mutual agreement we decided to. Ended up being a proper dinner, but it was just pasta at a bistro/restaurant type place where there were lots of other people. Did I do the right thing by not refusing outright? Here are the other facts:
posted by glache to Work & Money (37 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
1. I just started this job on Monday, therefore I didn't know anything about him or about anyone else, for that matter.
2. Found out at dinner that he's got a gf who's currently out of town, hence the lack of plans
3. The meeting was held 2hrs from where we work, in a city that I'm not familiar with, and he might've just invited me out so I could see more of that city, plus because of the meeting ending at 5pm I didn't think it was an unreasonable request to grab some dinner, as it became, because we would've arrived home at 7pm if we did (plus it made sense in terms of avoiding peak-hour traffic)
4. He paid afterwards. We both had the special, so it was very cheap, but I wonder if I should've insisted more to pay my share (I offered twice)
5. It was funny to see him loosen up in the car on the way back. He was almost monosyllabic on the drive there (might've been because we were cutting it fine--he was speeding), but on the way back (neither of us had any alcohol to drink), the conversation was very normal, flowed very normally, and we talked about everything from religion to politics to cars to comedy TV shows to travel.
6. Further to the above, I didn't get asked any personal questions apart from whereabouts in my hometown is my family, and he didn't engage on any further questions relating to his gf (nothing direct, but e.g. when we were talking about buying new cars and he was complaining about how the modern headrests are at such uncomfortable angles and one manufacturer makes them unadjustable, I said that's a good point, because your gf needs to be comfortable too and he just went straight on)
There are two sets of meetings, both of which occur every 2nd month in that same city. He said he would selectively choose which one to go to, so I don't expect him to be there all the time, but if I do find myself in a situation where both of us go again--have I broken any etiquette? (he may not offer again if his gf's back in town, but gotta cover all bases you know).