How can I get my newborn to stay asleep?
June 15, 2013 12:23 PM Subscribe
We're using all the advice from the Happiest Baby on the Block to get Little Stardust to fall asleep. It works the majority of the time and I can successfully get him to fall asleep by swaddling, rocking, white noise, etcetera. The problem is that he'll only stay asleep as long as I'm holding him.
posted by Kitty Stardust to Health & Fitness (34 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
The minute I set him down in his co-sleeper, he wakes and starts crying. He will sleep for long stretches if, for example, I'm wearing him in the Moby wrap or if he can just lie in my lap, but for some reason the co-sleeper is a total dealbreaker for him. I should mention he's three weeks old, he's fed breastmilk through a bottle (he has latching troubles), and otherwise he seems healthy and happy. I'd like to be able to put him down sometimes to, you know, eat, shower or use the bathroom. Or even fall asleep for a few minutes myself. I'm pumping all his milk so unless I can set him down for 20 minutes at a stretch, I can't even do that. I should also mention that we don't have family support and I'm mostly alone with this baby all day except for a few hours in the evening when I can hand him over to his father and sleep. The co-sleeper we use is an Arm's Reach mini, which I've raised to the level of our bed so we can see each other when I'm in bed too. We have ordered a bouncy seat that vibrates. It should be here next week.
He will sometimes reluctantly sleep in the co-sleeper, but he tends to thrash, wiggle, grunt and cry out in his sleep as long as he's in there. If I lift him into the bed with me, he'll sleep quietly, but then I can't sleep because I'm too worried about him rolling over or getting smothered. I can't bring him back to bed after late night feedings because the noises he makes will keep everyone awake, so I've just been staying up from 2am on and letting him sleep in my lap. This is brutally exhausting and frustrating all around.
Please hope me? Is there some baby hack that might help convince him to sleep in the co-sleeper? Is there something I can do to train him to be able to sleep without touching me?