How can you NOT plan ahead?
March 13, 2013 5:27 PM Subscribe
My husband is driving me up the wall. He has always shown a reluctance to make a plan for anything, but I love planning stuff (trips, etc) so it's never come to be a huge issue. Except for now.
posted by checkitnice to human relations (47 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
We purchased a home. It has needed cleaning and work. He has much more available time than I do, and is more able to work at the house. I'm 12 weeks pregnant and have not been able to do much in the lines of painting and cleaning. The issue now is that he will NOT stop and think before doing anything.
As a result? Our daughter's bedroom is a bizarre blue, because he grabbed the swatches and ran to the paint store (after weeks of discussion about the color scheme) and put the wrong colors on the wrong walls. No biggie, she's okay with it for now.
Yesterday he tells me that his dad is coming down with a truck to help move things. We have lots of boxes moved but are still living in our rental. Yay! I ask him what they're going to move. The beds. Okay. I ask him (since I will be at work) to clean the bathroom up and make sure that we will be able to sleep there tonight, since he's moving the beds. Also the plan was to move the kitchen furniture and hook up the w/d and move out the old fridge. No biggie. I work all day, and get to the new house to find ... the beds have been moved, but nothing else. NOTHING. Nothing else is done. They spent the day ... I don't know what. So now I am sitting at our rental while daughter takes a bath and our sheets (which mysteriously got mud all over them) finish drying. He says he "will try" to clean the bathroom so that I don't have to come back here in the morning and shower.
I know that I'm venting. But every day there has been something happening where he simply did not think about the logical chain of events. I feel like he just doesn't understand. Could this be ADHD? Several years ago, long before we met, he had an accident where a heavy beam fell on his head and I'm starting to think that he's got some kind of brain injury. Which seems like a horrible thing to say. Can someone explain this behavior?