I recently gave my two week's notice at work. It seemed to go well, but now my boss seems to be turning it into a negative thing by freaking out and being dramatic. Please help me navigate my last few days here.
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I've been at my job for well over a year now. I've received three company awards for my work. I've gotten global recognition for a job well done, including financial incentives. My boss has told me to my face point blank that I do excellent work.
However, out of the blue, she unceremoniously put on a performance plan a few months ago over seemingly dumb things (not being up to date on reading one minor work policy, and submitting two late expense reports - things that are very, very, small and minor compared to the overall workload that I manage). I was not given any warning prior to this step, which didn't make sense to me, because these are very much slap-on-the-wrist things that I know other co-workers have done repeatedly. I was shocked and as a result, I resolved the issues and the performance plan was closed out due to me satisfying it's requirements within 24 hours, depsite her giving me two weeks. I took it very seriously, and have never been even close to being on a PIP in my 12 years in my industry, so it was a bit unnerving. Due to the anxiety this caused me, I started looking for other positions behind the scenes. Meanwhile, after hearing various information from other sources, it led me to believe that there was actually malicious intent - I found out that due to our bonus structure, one person had to receive a "needs improvment" rating and because I've been here far less as compared to my two colleagues, it would make sense for her to give them the "Excellent" and "Above and beyond" ratings, respectively. "Needs Improvement" requires a PIP and now I get no bonus.
This was weeks ago. My boss continues to be her normal self - she's a good person, is pleasant, and I like her as a person, but her management style is atrocious. She will be radio silent for days and then email-bomb me and my co-workers about every item under the sun in the span of 5 mintues/40 emails. It is stressful and we've talked with her about it individually, and things change for awhile, but then they go right back. She skips meetings where we need her guidance where we have specifically requested her attendance for this reason. She has to approve everything rather than allowing us to have autonomy and make our own decisions (even down to sending her draft emails for approval prior to sending to certain recipients). She withholds information and then when our tasks/projects are seemingly complete, we are scolded for not completing them 100% due to not having all pertinent information (which she then plays dumb about). She comes and goes at odd hours, but expects us all to be in the office from 8-5pm. She erratically emails on the weekends and outside of business hours constantly, and from her iPhone. She swings back and forth daily between stressed out to mellow - we don't know what type of day it will be until we hear from her. She has no spine when it comes to upper management, which oftentimes leads to erratic requests that are not business-focused or the best solution from our group as outputs.
Anyway, a few weeks after the PIP incident, I found a new job! it's awesome - I'm so excited to start!
When I resigned, I calmly handed her my written two week notice in person and thanked her for this opportunity, but that I have decided to pursue other interests. I thanked her for the opportunity for us to have worked on our relationship together and that I was glad we were able to resolve things earlier in the month. She seemed calm and thanked me and asked twice what she could do to make me stay and that she wanted to counter because she thinks I'm a great employee and doesn't want to lose me. I thanked her but politely declined. Overall, however, this exchange felt amicable and positive.
Since then, she has been nothing but cranky and terse with me. She has stressed out the rest of the team and has left me off of all emails, meetings, etc. regarding my work that will be handed to someone else. This is fine with me, but at the same time, I can give everyone the history and nuances of what is getting handed off to make their lives easier. I've still organized all of my notes, etc. for them and have saved many of these emails from her. She sent out a very curt, one-line email to everyone saying that I'm leaving and left off key people. Whatever emails I do get from her are one-line demands. It feels so negative and toxic, and I'm worried that upon my leaving, she's going to make this out to everyone that I was fired or a bad employee. I'm concerned that she's going to poisen my reputation, and we work in a very small industry, so burning bridges is not a good idea at all.
What do I do about this?
My current tactic is to be polite and diplomatic at all times and to everyone. I sent out an email to everyone I work with thanking them for the opportunity to work with them and passing on my contact information, and that I made the ulitimate decision to pursue a different opportunity. I have NOT told anyone where I'm going. I have been getting flooded with phone calls and emails from co-workers and external clients saying that they are really sad to see me go. On my last day I'm planning on stopping by at everyone's offices to say goodbye individually. I'm realizing I made a lot of allies here, and it makes me feel guilty for leaving, but I'm glad I am. Maybe I am a bad person?
Anyway, I want to leave this job on a high note but am concerned that my boss is going to completely jeopardize that with her panicked, current behavior and she seems to be taking this personally. Is there anything else I can do at present? How else to navigate?