March 4, 2013 12:06 PM Subscribe
How can I avoid analysis paralysis in decision-making and pick what's "right for me" more consistently? How can I minimize regret?
posted by Seeking Direction to Human Relations (25 answers total) 54 users marked this as a favorite
I seem to be incapable of making a good decision.
No, I'm not talking about "bad decisions" in the sense of drinking and driving, or playing hockey on a pond with a "thin ice" sign.
Instead, I'm talking about not being capable of deciding which restaurant to meet someone at, what time to make an appointment at, or what color tie to wear. In other words, decisions where there is no "right" choice, though I may indeed enjoy one of the choices better.
I know traditional "decision-making" advice tends to be things like "make a list of pros and cons, weigh the outcomes, etc.". However, I try to think too logically, and get stuck in analysis paralysis...often, over the stupidest things! (Unfortunately, the problem happens with decisions on every scale, unless there is indeed a clearly logical, "right" choice.)
Thinking vs. preference/feeling have a battle.
It's worse when someone else is involved.
I develop a sense of regret easily (especially if it is a large-scale decision).
I'd like to follow something along the lines of Steve Pavlina's "is it me" advice (which I consider very valuable), but the "logical" side of me inevitably tries to suppress it.
Any advice would be appreciated!