Take me home, country (or city) roads
February 10, 2013 11:09 AM Subscribe
Please help my spouse and I find a new city. We currently live in Northern Virginia and are looking for a change of scenery.
posted by timetoevolve to Human Relations (36 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
My husband and I currently live in Arlington, VA (in the Crystal City neighborhood). We moved here in 2011 after six years in Fairfax County, VA mostly because he couldn’t deal with the long, long commutes any more. We’re now two minutes from his office and reasonably closer to mine, but neither of us are happy. It’s taken many years of talking about it, but it seems that both of us are now ready for a change. MeFites, can you help us?
What he wants:
-A decently-sized city. He grew up in the middle of nowhere, and won’t countenance small towns. Mid-sized cities would probably be ok, but any place really small is right out.
-Some place with a reasonably healthy economy, where he can earn decent money - we both work, but he’s the primary earner, as he makes 2x as much money as I do.
-Sports. We’re both big sports fans, particularly baseball, and he loves to go to sporting events.
-A place that’s outdoor-friendly, particularly bike-friendly.
What I want:
-A cost of living that’s lower than the DC area’s. A huge part of my anxiety living here is because I fear we will never be able to afford the things that are important to me, like having a child and owning a home. (Yes, I go to therapy.) It needn’t be super-cheap, just not out-of-control expensive.
-GREEN. We live in a mid-rise building above a busy intersection and Route 1, and looking out my window is like being punched in the soul. Everything is grey and brown, and I desperately want a garden. I also want a yard - I don’t care if it’s a tiny one, or even a xeriscaped one, but I want one. We had a long commute from our old place, but at least we had trees!
-Decent weather. Although I don’t mind cold winters, I don’t think I can handle constant rain, so places like Seattle and Portland are not tops on my list. I’m from the South, so heat doesn’t particularly bother me.
-Quiet. I am a country mouse at heart, and although I will never get to live in the cute small town of my dreams, I would prefer not to be awoken EVERY SINGLE NIGHT by honking horns and fire engines.
-On employment: we’re both federal contractors, but are certainly not married to working for the government. He’s a programmer/statistician/project manager, and I’m a GIS analyst.
-Neither of us are interested in changing neighborhoods in the DC area. I have lived here since 2001 and have never liked it, and I’m not interested in giving it more time.
-We both crave a place that is more relaxed and has some personality. The blandness and transience of the DC area is troublesome to my husband, and we’re the polar opposite of the super Type A, work-obsessed types we keep meeting.
-Places we are currently considering are Denver, Nashville, and Atlanta.