Good picture books that feature princesses/fairies who are conventionally feminine but also have agency and are valued for things other than selflessness?
I babysit regularly for a five year-old girl, and we often read picture books together. She's very into both princesses and fairies now, and I'd like to expand on that and introduce some new princess/fairy books.
What I don't want is to seem like I'm telling her that conventional femininity is bad or inferior. Princesses who like dresses and pink things are a-okay! What I have noticed in some princess books though, is that princesses are often praised primarily for putting others ahead of themselves. Are there stories out there about princesses or fairies who embrace domesticity and femininity, but also aren't shy about putting themselves first sometimes, and are praised for being smart or brave or resourceful? I'm specifically looking for princesses or fairies here, not strong female role models in general.
I have a good public library system at my disposal. The Paper Bag Princess
seems like a good starting point, but surely there are others!
(Before this turns into a derail about my boundaries as a babysitter; both parents and daughter love it when I bring new books or toys over. Parents are trying to encourage daughter to read more, and I think they'd be grateful for some new princess books too.)