11 y.o. girl loves Dr. Who and Hobbit -- friends make fun -- help?
January 27, 2013 2:31 PM Subscribe
I know this question sounds like a very special episode of some teen show, but I really would appreciate some advice on dealing with this issue from those who have been there.
posted by jfwlucy to Human Relations (30 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
My darling girl loves Dr. Who/Tolkien/Terry Pratchett, etc., which is great. But she is still actually a very girly girl in her dress and behavior.
Result -- her friends who are girls say she is weird and have increasingly little in common with her, and the boys in her class laugh at her and say (very cruelly) that she can't like those things because she is too girly.
I know, I KNOW, all the things about how this builds character and how she is building her uniqueness and so on. Yes. I know.
But right NOW, she is humiliated and feels that she has to keep this part of her secret or risk being made fun of, which at her age IS the end of the world.
From women who have been there, I'd love some suggestions -- comebacks, ways to find a more congenial peer group, books to read, websites even, ways to keep sane and strong, etc.
From men, is the best thing to do with nasty boy comments really to ignore them? That's what we are all told as girls, but IMHO, that means you come home with a furious bubbling pool of bile in your gut and fantasize about ways to slice off
testicles ears all night long.