The Gift of (Irrational) Fear
January 27, 2013 12:56 AM Subscribe
How do you quell irrational fears? And how do you know whether it's irrational or trying to tell you something more?
posted by ichomp to health & fitness (13 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
My fears manifest themselves in dreams and conscious thought. Some examples of my fears:
1) Getting into a car crash: One of my recurring dreams is driving a car and it getting out of control in unfamiliar areas. This has never happened.
2) My sister's child will be born with a disorder: Irrational because my sister isn't even pregnant, and I first thought this before she was married.
3) My husband will molest our children: Irrational because I'm not married and don't even have a boyfriend, and I don't plan on having kids. But it is a really nagging fear and I don't know how to quiet it.
4) I will cheat on my spouse: Irrational because I'm single and I suppose, I'm scared of my (future?) spouse cheating on me. I'm really afraid I'll be the one to cheat on them. Even though I feel like I'm "cheating" on my crush when I like someone else, so I don't think I will be the person to cheat on a partner. I am more afraid of my spouse thinking that I guess.
5) Growing old and decaying: Right now, I feel the healthiest I've ever been, and to be vain, the most loved I've ever been. I'm afraid it's a long way down from here. How does it feel to lose youth? I feel it slipping and I'm afraid of being physically old.
Those are my most prominent fears. They are not that irrational now that I look at them, especiall #1 and 5. But #2-4, are irrational and kind of "secret" fears I don't want to discuss with friends. They are nagging and I really want them to go away. Please let me know how to address these fears.