Can I quit?
August 29, 2005 10:46 AM Subscribe
Quitting my job and moving 1800 miles to be with my grandmother while she dies...Crazy? Possible?
posted by justonegirl to human relations (49 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm married, no kids, and moderately successful in a job (marketing) in the Washington, DC area that doesn't do much for me. My grandmother is withering away in a nursing home in Fredericksburg, TX. She can't hear (careless staff lost her $2K hearing aids), can't hold a book or a remote control, is having some memory/cognizance issues, and barely gets any visitors. I love her dearly and it kills me that she's so isolated.
The idea of resigning from my job and road-tripping it to Texas to be with her for a couple of months occurred to me a few days ago, and I can't get it out of my head. And now that I've thought of it, the idea of pushing it aside and then my grandmother possibly dying alone is horrible to me.
My husband is supportive, especially considering that we'd planned for me to stop working in the next year or so anyway (to have kids, and so that I can focus on our side business). Money will be very tight, but we've figured out on paper that we can manage if we cut our spending majorly. My boss will be *pissed* that I'm quitting, but I can't decide if I really care. The plan itself doesn't seem that complicated -- drive 4 days down, stay 2 months or so with relatives in the area, possibly get a part-time job waiting tables to make ends meet, drive 4 days back.
So my big obstacles are (1) just taking the plunge and embracing this crazy idea; (2) acclimating myself to the idea of being a "quitter" (as far as career goes), even though it's not like I love working; (3) facing my boss and co-workers and the many people here who depend on me; (4) fear of giving up my career and then not being able to cut it financially in the long run.
Any thoughts, suggestions, etc that are at all related to this idea are appreciated -- both the concept of quitting work to do something that feels emotionally and almost spiritually like a necessity, and practical advice as well.