How can I help my daughter with her height?
December 28, 2012 11:07 AM Subscribe
Please help me with my incredible (and probably irrational) guilt and grief over my daughter's height. I know that she'll be okay but I blame myself. Is there anything that I can do now?
posted by Toto_tot to health & fitness (126 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
My daughter is 16 and 5 feet tall. That's it. She's been through puberty. We saw a doctor a year ago who said that she was done growing and that maybe, maybe, she would grow another inch.
She is upset about it but coping. I never show my feelings about it to her and I appear positive and I listen support her feelings.
But I feel such guilt about it. She was a picky, picky eater and we are vegetarians. Although, she drank gallons of milk and grains (bread) she never rarely ate fruits or vegetables. She would gag. My husband would get mad at me for pushing her. She couldn't swallow pills so never took vitamins and would gag and spit on liquid ones that I would try to give her. She was a 33 week preemie - not super tiny - almost 4 lbs.
I feel like it's my fault. I feel like I should have been stronger. I just feel like I should have noticed and taken her to the doctor sooner. Maybe we would have gotten HGH shots or vitamin shots something. When I would worry about it and take her fr blood tests they were always normal. Yet, I wake up feeling guilty everyday for not being stronger.
I know that taller people have it easier. Not always and in all cases, but the studies show that, all other things being equal, they get more respect and opportunity.
She is smart but has anxiety issues and I worry that I've made her life hard.
Even typing this I know that I should get over this and that it's maybe silly but I do feel so so so so so terrible.
Any advice or anecdotes would be very welcome.