Does my mom have any hearing aid options?
December 26, 2012 6:38 PM Subscribe
How can I get my mom to consider a hearing aid? And would a hearing aid even work for her?
posted by amanda to Health & Fitness (19 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
About 18 years ago, my mother had surgery on one of her ears to remove a tumor. They got it all but said it might harm her hearing. As it turns out, it rendered her deaf on that side. She makes do fairly ok with just the one hearing ear but as the years go by, I've noticed that she has had more and more trouble.
Over the last few years, I've tried to talk to her about it. First off, I asked if she told people she was deaf in one ear. She does not like to tell people. She informed me that she hears well enough in the one ear. Unfortunately, this isn't the case. Frequently she appears to be ignoring people, or being willfully obtuse to what they are saying or just odd in how she answers a question because she doesn't hear or hears partially and responds in a strange way. She sometimes talks over people because she doesn't know someone else is talking.
She was in real estate for awhile (still is, in a limited way, she's mostly retired) and I think it hampered her ability to do the job well and she was not as successful as she could have been. Can you imagine saying to a realtor, "This roof looks pretty bad, do you know the age?" And having her say in response, "Have you seen the beautiful kitchen?"
I asked her at one point if she had looking into a hearing aid and she said she had but that it wouldn't do her any good.
So, first off, anyone with experience with hearing aids? If she has one good (or fairly good, considering age) ear, would any kind of hearing aid help her get more of a range or does it just not work that way?
And, if a hearing aid would do her good, how can I approach this again? Her father had hearing aids as long as I can remember and in some ways they were kind of frustrating. He used to turn them off when he didn't feel like engaging with the family (kind of funny unless you're the one being tuned out) and he was pretty much deaf late in life and constantly losing his aids. I wonder if my mom has some issues about hearing aids that are being dredged up here in her reluctance to try them out.
I really wish she would just tell people with a smile, "Oh sorry, you got my bad ear, try again?" That would make things so much better.