Help me come up with “exciting” and “pleasant” experiences for us to do together as a couple.
A few weeks ago, I asked this
question about building closeness when feeling distant in a long-term relationship. A few of you responded along the lines of we need to do more exciting activities together. Then, I read this
article about research that suggests couples that do “exciting” activities (e.g. skiing, dancing) report greater satisfaction than couples who do merely “pleasant” activities (e.g. movie, cooking) together.
We talked about this article, and decided that we should each come up with a list of exciting and pleasant activities, and start working through our lists in 2013! Fun! He was actually very enthusiastic about this – I have a feeling he’s going to put things on the list he’s always wanted to push me to do (e.g. mountain biking) that I’ve always said no to, but I’m ok with this because I want to this to be an unbounded, unconstrained exercise for us, like “in my wildest dreams, I would like to…” or “It seems really scary, but I wouldn’t mind trying…” We might not do every activity, but it will be a fun list to talk about anyway.
I want to do a great job with this list, and come up with some unexpected ideas, which is where I need your help again. Everything that has come to my mind so far as “exciting” seems a bit clichéd to me (e.g. sky-diving, sailing). What “exciting” things can we do as a couple in Los Angeles (or a short drive / flight away)? What activities have been unexpectedly exciting for you?
I’m less worried about the “pleasant” activities list (wine-tasting, hiking, dinner / movie night, making dinner together; maybe TMI but sometimes, we have “spa” night where we lay out towels and spa-y things happen; highly recommended and really, the only time he moisturizes), but any suggestions you have for pleasant activities, especially more low-key things to do around Los Angeles that I may not be thinking of (e.g. highly recommend Thurs evening wine tastings at Silverlake Wine) definitely welcome!