Friendship is Magic
December 7, 2012 10:31 PM Subscribe
How do I tell my instructor that I would like to see him socially after the class is over without sounding like a stalker? You would think being direct would be the simple answer, but I am feeling socially awkward about the whole thing and need some advice.
posted by evilcupcakes to human relations (20 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I am currently taking a college class from an instructor with whom I have a great deal in common personally and would be a great fit in my social circle. I would very much like to see him socially after I am no longer his student, but I can't figure out a way of approaching the subject without sounding as if I am asking him out on a "date". I am a female in my early 40s, he is male in his early 50s. I am happily married and he has a girlfriend. I will no longer be attending the college after I am done with his class (it's a foreign language for personal enrichment, not a degree).
I have written a thank you card to him 8 times, and each time it comes out sounding like I am either coming on to him or I am a crazed stalker. I contemplated saying something in person, but that never sounded right in my head either. I guess it never occurred to me before I was married that the simple act of asking a guy to coffee or over for dinner has the potential to be misconstrued. How would you word it?