I have the world's sleepiest boyfriend.
December 2, 2012 2:29 PM Subscribe
My boyfriend sleeps all day. It's driving me crazy. What can I do to either stop caring or get him to change his habits?
posted by Tha Race Card to human relations (26 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend works from home (we live together) and regularly sleeps until the late afternoon/evening. On a typical day he'll wake up at about 4 or 5 PM, putter around the house for a bit, go back to sleep until 8 PM, and then wake up and work until 5 or 6 in the morning before falling asleep watching Netflix. And repeat. Most days he doesn't even see the sun.
I have a regular 8 to 5 job. I'm up at 7 AM everyday and in bed by 12 or 1 during the week.
At this point we're on opposite schedules which means we don't really have sex, sleep together, eat together, or really do much of anything together. When I'm awake and wanting to do stuff he's asleep. When I'm falling asleep at 2 in the morning he wants sex.
His job doesn't demand nocturnal hours. He's pretty much free to make his own schedule. He complains sometimes about not having enough time in the day. When I point out that this is most likely because he sleeps for 12 hours a day he agrees and changes the subject.
I've tried coaxing him awake with sexytimes, suggesting breakfast or a low-key activity we can do together in the morning, nudging him repeatedly, point blank telling him that it bothers me and asking him to try to wake up earlier (he agrees to try and then just doesn't), all sorts of stuff. None of it has worked. He has a history of depression and he's currently on a generic version of Lexapro which is almost certainly contributing to this situation.
I'm frustrated and at a loss and I feel like I'm nagging him. I don't really know where to go from here. It's been like this for months at this point and it's starting to feel like this is just the new normal in our relationship, which is unfortunate.