Coping with social isolation after the end of a long relationship.
November 26, 2012 11:40 PM Subscribe
I had a serious relationship of about ten years that ended a bit more than a year ago. My SO was my sole source of human friendship and companionship. Now that I'm on the other side, I'm struggling. How do I cope with the lack of meaningful human interaction and what can I do to move towards something better?
On a day to day basis, I feel fine and even good and I'm introverted by nature, but as time passes, the lack of human connection or friendship is wearing on me.
But, to be honest, I'm not sure I have that much to offer others in terms of friendship. My social/conversational skills are poor and I feel so distant from others right now. I almost feel like I've just emerged from suspended animation and this whole time people have been learning how to have idle conversations on what they did last weekend or how much leftover turkey they have, etc. etc. and turn those into actual connection but it's like a foreign language to me. So I'm feeling a bit pessimistic that things will improve in the near future.
What can I do in the short term to cope or to improve my outlook? If anyone has been in a similar situation in the past, I would be interested in hearing your experiences. Any advice or thoughts would be much appreciated.
Note: I am currently seeing a therapist. I'm not exercising as regularly as I'd like but I'm working on it.