Am I being a crazy hormonal pregnant lady by suddenly plotting against our cat?
November 26, 2012 6:36 PM Subscribe
We have an annoying cat. Now we're also having a baby. Suddenly things feel complicated. Please help me sort out what's just my hormones, what are real concerns, and what's fair to the cat.
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My husband and I own a cat. She was a stray that sort of adopted us, or rather, my husband who kept putting out food for her; she's likely 5 years old now and totally indoor-only. The cat is also crazy. She's not aggressive at all, but extremely sensitive, loud and jumpy. Every ten minutes she goes tearing through our house because something frightened her. And as a half-Siamese, she's LOUD. Though she can sit quietly on occasion, it's not uncommon for her to spend hours traipsing throughout house rrrrrrowling for no reason. It's like she can't stop, and the more agitated I'd get with her, the louder her noises would become. It sets my teeth on edge, but I've learned to ignore her as best I can. She's also maddened by doors that are shut, and she needs a lot of attention and positive reinforcement to feel secure in her environment. Any time she's been stressed (when we moved, when we got our bathroom retiled, when we switched cat litter) she'll go through monthlong spells of pooping on the table or the carpet.
I worry that the cat will stand at the baby's closed bedroom door and meow all night, and that the baby's crying will make her nuts and there will be more cat tantrums and general cat weirdness. I worry that the cat will poop on household surfaces and make us or the baby sick.
But even just typing this out, I realize that I'm mainly just not tolerating this cat any longer. I've never enjoyed her, but since I'm a grown up who can make compromises, she hasn't been a deal breaker. Now that our baby is coming, I look at this cat and just resent all the trouble I see her causing. She's a high maintenance animal who will soon be competing with a higher maintenance baby.
I haven't talked about this with my husband, but I don't see this dilemma ending well. He's extremely devoted to the cat and looks down on people who give their animals away*. I'm scared that he'll think I'm a horrible person and an unfit mother if I tell him how much I resent this stupid animal and how badly I want her out of my house, away from our kid.
I don't want to bring up this conversation unless I have a good reason, because it will break his heart if he knows I want to get rid of his beloved pet. As much as i worry over and resent the animal, I couldn't bear for my husband to think I'm one of those awful people who gives up a pet when the going gets tough. However, I'm also thinking about the general well-being of our little family and think maybe there's a kernel of truth in my sentiments.
If you had a tough pet and then discovered you were going to have a baby, what did you do?
*I used to be this person too!