Help me become the mature, self-restrained adult I always wanted to be
November 14, 2012 10:17 PM Subscribe
I say too much. About me, about others. I find it difficult to control this. Have you managed this or a similar problem? What strategies did you use?
posted by Tarumba to human relations (18 answers total) 39 users marked this as a favorite
More details: After hanging out in friends, I very usually feel a lingering regret for sharing things about myself (nothing inappropriate, just maybe some things that a more mature person would keep private).
If I feel comfortable with close friends, I am too honest about disliking others and too candid about sharing personal details and opinions. I think I may have put a toe or two across the gossip line and fear I can't keep secrets. In fact, even though I rarely share information with people I am not good friends with, I'm afraid I am a gossip when in my closest circle. This is worsened by the fact that I am opinionated.
The worst part is I can't control it. When I promise myself I won't mention some important event in my life, I always end up telling friends about it pretty much as soon as I see them.
What can I do about this? How do I learn to STFU?