I'm anticipating possible confrontation, can you help me prepare?
November 11, 2012 2:27 PM Subscribe
I have been having a "war" with some competitors. They meet in the same restaurant where I've called a meeting next week. My meeting is couched as an "open meeting" (meaning anyone who is interested can come). It's a roundtable meeting of like minded people and meant to be informal, and it's not through any employer. I've put the invitation up publicly onto a blog. The problem is, if the three people who I've warred with were to show up, the meeting could quickly become their meeting. I want to take hold of the reins of my own meeting.
posted by naplesyellow to work & money (11 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My enemies (there are 3 of them) have made it clear that I am unwelcome at their meetings because of an earlier brouhaha....and likewise, the brouhaha makes it so they are unwelcome by me. The problems took place last year, but the type of work we do makes it so we run into each other at various times. It might have been smarter of me to have meetings at a different location (they meet at the same place, but on a different day). However, everyone involved likes this place and I don't see any reason why I should accept being "run out of town". It is a public restaurant and we are all "freelance".
I know this sounds as if I am 10 years old...but I am just looking for one solid "policy" to help me in case they plunk themselves down at my meeting...which absolutely could happen. I certainly don't want to come across as petty to the rest of the people at the meeting, but what is the best way to prepare for the possibility of my enemies showing up to throw their weight around and disrupt my meeting? Would I have to stop the meeting and tell them that I don't want them there? I want to keep a cool head, but of course, my blood pressure goes up sky high about the situation.