Is this kind of professional grooming the norm?
September 26, 2012 6:25 PM Subscribe
How much say should my employer have over my physical appearance?
posted by Saminal to work & money (78 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
Last week my company offered me a promotion with the qualifier that I would have to "clean up my professional image". The person interviewing me (who is very high up in the company) had some very specific things for me to change. They told me my silver flats "look like slippers" and that black would be the best color on me. They told me to sit up straight and stop standing with my weight unevenly leaning on one foot. They told me to wear blush, something to make my lashes look longer and some "tinted lip gloss."
I was a little hurt and put off but over the weekend I cut my hair, bought makeup and some new clothes and they seemed very happy Monday morning and gave me the job.
Today my immediate supervisor came to my work site and I suppose noticed for the first time that I have armpit hair and told me I would need to shave it "so as not to offend any one." She then told me my new haircut (which she seemed to like on Monday) seems to "highlight the fact that your hair is thinning." She then put her hands in my hair, I guess to investigate.
I again left feeling hurt and confused. I haven't ever been this high up in a company before or in a position where I interact with clients and the public every day. Is this pretty standard or is this unusual? Are they allowed dictate all the things to me? Should I just "fix" myself to look the way they'd like?
I work in an educational setting and spend most of my day around small children. I am the highest ranking person at my job site. I am late twenties and female.