My girlfriend and I want to do that 'public display of commitment' thing, but we don't want to get
are not yet available in the UK. Can we do it elsewhere with legal status? Or should we wait?
Marriage has always been a problem for me. I'm adamantly non-religious, and cannot ritualise my love for someone under a set of legal obligations committed to law in the name of God/The King etc.
What's more, having now been to a lot of apparently secular weddings, the issue of female/male equality has also become a nagging problem. One that both my partner and I share. Basically, even our most secular friends have had ceremonies where the registrar has uttered the awful lines, "I now pronounce you man and wife. You may now kiss the bride." Patriarchy is alive and well and my generation seems to be ignoring it.
So, we want to get a Civil Partnership, because it is not as rooted in a history of religion ad patriarchy (and other reasons
). But in the UK this is only regulated for homosexual couples.
Civil Partnerships for heterosexuals are legal in other countries. In Holland it is legal, but one of you must be a Dutch citizen. France has a whole bunch of different ways to wed, but none resemble the UK civil partnership and are not legally binding. I remember reading somewhere, that Belgium or maybe Denmark, and New Zealand have Civil Ceremonies that would be legal in the UK, but I can't find evidence of this upon looking again.
It looks as though Civil Partnerships for heterosexual couples might make its way
to the UK in the not too distant future
. Should we wait? How do we make it known to the courts that we want this law passed?
So, my question is twofold:
- Which countries can we get Civil Ceremonied in that are applicable in UK law?
- Are my reservations unfounded? / Should we wait?