Male and Female Sexual Relationships
September 18, 2012 3:42 PM Subscribe
What type of sexual relationships do women and men enjoy? I have a question, what is healthy sex and a healthy male female relationship.
posted by mrfawcet to Human Relations (25 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I will only get a girlfriend if I think there is potential to marry the girl.
Of course, one usually ends up growing apart and it doesn't work out. I don't want to wait years inbetween or just get into a relationship to please my sexual needs. I don't want to lead anyone on. Also, I know most girls have a sexual relationship with someone between boyfriends. I don't see people waiting for serious commitment and don't think they should. Sexual gratification is healthy in my eyes.
This may be a bit long winded.
I don't really believe in the waiting till marriage and I don't think sex is unimportant either. I believe it is sacred. I think it is healthy in a consensual relationship but the details of the relationship is where I get confused.
I use to think that it should only be practiced in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. From my observation, it is standard practice also to do it outside a serious relationship. Seems like people do the bf/gf thing only if they see each other as marriage material and want to try out a serious relationship. If two people like each other,and are sexually attracted to each other then, they will be seeing each other, but neither has the intent that it is forever.
So, if I find someone I want to be friends with and have sexual relationship with but don't want it to be forever, should I just be seeing them? Would asking to be boyfriend/girlfriend be leading the person on... Basically what level of is expected by both sexes and how much is too much where you are leading someone on?
I think it would be hard to get into the boyfriend girlfriend relationship and not take it seriously. I had a girl do this and she didn't state that. I felt a bit used after. I think it would be best to talk it out with you partner. If you don't want to try out forever, then skip the BF/GF and just be friends that are seeing each other. Is this how most people do it? Guess the sex isn't casual in the sense that you don't care about the person. You are friends and care about each other. You are committed to monogamy, just understood that the intent of the relationship isn't testing forever compatibility. You go on a sexual journey for a while together and meet the human needs of each other.
I think this would avoid a lot of heart ache in relationships. I think the sexual desire is a big factor of why people get into bf/gf relationships, and one person takes it more seriously than the other. Maybe if they were upfront that they wanted a friend to meet their sexual needs, and that they had a feeling they weren't going to last forever or lie to themselves, there would be less messy break ups. People would really talk out important issues before hand, instead of basing it on infatuation. Honestly, everyone would wait like 6 months to 1 year because that is the only way you would know if you were going to stay with this person for a long time. Thanks