Help me be awesome and supportive towards my pregnant sister!
September 6, 2012 7:48 AM Subscribe
My sister is pregnant. I am psyched. Help me be an awesome and supportive sister and aunt!
posted by kat518 to human relations (12 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
My sister is almost done with her first trimester of pregnancy and I couldn't be happier for her because I know she will be a great mom. That said, I know having babies is Serious Business and not easy so I want to be helpful as much as I can.
- My sister lives a few states away. It's about an 8 hour drive or a short flight or two away but we're not physically close so I can't just pop over with food or to check on her.
- She's single. She's an attorney and while she has student loans and a mortgage, she's doing pretty well for herself in my opinion. The pregnancy was planned. She picked donor sperm and got inseminated. So there's no partner in the picture but she has tons of friends and is getting a doula.
- She's expecting twins!
- She was overweight before getting pregnant. Initially, she was going to try not to gain weight at all but I'm not sure that she can do that when she's expecting twins. Because she's overweight and expecting twins, they're anticipating that she either has or will get gestational diabetes. I would like to send her baked goods or suggest recipes because when she went to the doctor's office, the stupid nurse gave her a list of things that she should eat for diabetes without remembering that she's pregnant (for example, fish). Also, since she's always been heavier than me, food is potentially fraught/loaded on a sister level. I think we've grown past that but I'm not sure and I don't want to risk making things uncomfortable.
When I was getting married, my sister made me a planner so I would like to make her a planner. The one she made me was a composition notebook with things like "write what songs you want played at the wedding on this page!" and "write important phone numbers down here!" What type of stuff to that effect should go in a "baby planner"?
I have another sister and we've started talking a little about having a baby shower and visiting to help out after the babies come. We also have a brother who doesn't live too far from my pregnant sister so hopefully he will be helpful. Her best friend lives near my brother and I know she'll help too, as will my brother's girlfriend. My mother died about five years ago but my sister is pretty close with one of our aunts who already said she would visit and help out. I'm a little worried that my dad is still in shock and freaked out. He hasn't told the woman he's seeing that my sister is pregnant but he said he wants to wait until after the first trimester.
I would like to protect my sister, as much as possible, from jerks who say inappropriate things about a single woman who wants to have kids but I don't know how much of that I can do from afar besides listening to her when jerks say inappropriate things.
TL;DR - My single, professional sister is pregnant with twins. How can I be helpful, supportive and awesome?