They'd offer you the job if you didn't look like you already have one ... walking the stroll
September 5, 2012 10:39 AM Subscribe
How do I tell a friend that she looks … unprofessional … and that it’s hurting her job search?
posted by nubianinthedesert to human relations (33 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
The only reason I’d even bring this up because my friend asked me to help her figure out why she’s been unsuccessful in her job search.
We are former colleagues so I know her work well. She is bright, capable, friendly and well-liked in her current job but she’s been there a long time without a raise (It’s government) and is ready to move on. She started the position while a graduate student and was hired on full-time after she finished her degree.
The problem is her appearance: First, she wears makeup I can only describe as garish. Think: Shave off the eyebrows and draw them back in. Foundation is the wrong color and is noticeably a different shade from her complexion. Her clothes are often tight for her figure. She’s very fit but if it’s too small, it’s too small. And the biggest clincher and the one I think hurts her in our conservative city: Her front tooth is rimmed in gold. Not an entire gold tooth but it’s the first thing you notice when she smiles. I have no idea how to tell her that this is just tacky. And I also realize that dental work isn’t cheap so I don’t know how much she can do right away.
Is there even a reasonably tactful way I can mention these things? I really do think she’d get an offer if her appearance were more polished. She’s had several interviews over the last year with no bites.