Parents vs. Job.
August 22, 2012 9:02 AM Subscribe
Parents vs. Job offer...
posted by sarahgrace to human relations (49 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I am a 20-year-old female who still lives at home while attending college. For a college student, I'm fairly responsible - I have a 4.0, do many chores for my parents, house-sit when asked, etc. I was never a problem for my parents growing up, and even as an "adult" I don't disrespect them and their generosity by acting like I can do anything and everything I want.
I have had a few jobs in the past: one as a sales clerk and one as a childcare provider. As I'm trying to save up money to move out next August, I have been looking for a job that is flexible enough to allow me to have plenty of time to do my work and hopefully have a social life.
Yesterday, I found a job at the local motel (run by old friends of my parents). I live in a town of ~2000 people without really any main attractions, but it does have a large highway that runs through it. The job would consist of working from 10pm-8am a few days a week, checking in people after-hours at the motel and dealing with any issues that guests have. I was absolutely over the moon to have this job offered to me because I'm a night owl and because I'll be permitted to do my class work (or even sleep!) while I work since it won't be very busy. I'll be the only person working at night, but will be in a locked lobby with a lockable attached bedroom and will be doing all business through glass.
I told my parents about this job offer, and they are absolutely against me taking it. They keep saying things like "you could be carried off and we'd never know until 8am" and giving me all of these awful scenarios of things that could go wrong. As far as I'm concerned, I really doubt that anyone is going to break glass/break down a door to kidnap/murder me in a town this small. The police station is no more than 3 miles away, and the owners live about 4 miles away. I'm frustrated because my father keeps saying he needs to "think about" if I can take the job or not. I'm torn because this seems like such a great opportunity and I'm an adult who desperately needs the money, but I don't want to disrespect my parents and their home by going against their wishes.
Additional details: I'm 5'2", 135 pounds and very charismatic which I think is partially why my parents are concerned. I'm also an only child and my parents have been known to go to ridiculous lengths to keep me "under their thumb".
I just don't know how to handle this. I understand my parents' concern, but I feel like I'm crazy to turn down a job when it's almost impossible to get one in my town.