How do I win my ex back?
August 19, 2012 10:53 PM Subscribe
First date with ex-boyfriend went well... what's the next step to eventually winning him back?
posted by enantio to human relations (35 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
After a six month breakup, my ex boyfriend and I recently reconnected over coffee, at my suggestion. The breakup was amicable (he broke things off, stating he wasn't ready for a serious relationship at the time), and we decided to remain friends. We've been in sporadic email contact for most of the time since the breakup. I have a feeling the meeting went pretty well, as he gave me a hug beforehand and afterward, said it was really nice to see me, and we laughed and joked throughout the meeting. We didn't talk about the breakup at all, and based on how comfortably we were talking with each other, it almost seemed as if the breakup never even happened.
Given that he seems friendly, should I make a second move and ask him out to a movie? If so, how long should I wait before I contact him? Or should I just wait for him to contact me? I'd really like to date him again eventually but would not want to rush things; I'd rather develop a solid friendship first, which is what was lacking when we first started dating. What should my next step be toward eventually winning him back into my life?