Neighbor attacked boyfriend; what should I do?
July 18, 2012 1:41 AM Subscribe
Neighbor attacked her boyfriend with knife. What should I do?
posted by dolce_voce to human relations (34 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My neighbors are a couple who have been together for about a decade. Since I moved in about 7 months ago, I've heard them drunkenly fight and shout at one another maybe 4 or 5 times. This last time, I heard the gal shrieking and what sounded like banging (1 AM). I called her phone to ask if things were okay, did anyone need to be called. Her boyfriend answered and said she had just attacked him with a knife and he was bleeding. I am a medical student who also cares about community and asked him to come down so I could help him. I cleaned him up, tended his wounds and listened to him, and offered the sole advice that they seek external support-- he was adamant that he was not pressing charges and did not want anyone called. He appreciated my help and has refused my advice, for now-- we set the intention for me to check in with him/them in two weeks.
I personally think their issues are their business, and whether they break up or stay together and work it out doesn't mean much to me. I am concerned though that their fights have become too violent obviously, and am wondering, is it my place to report this? Do I simply follow with my intention to check in in two weeks and refer them to our local counseling center? (The center is excellent and free). Would it be more appropriate to insist at that point? Do I tell the landlord of our apartment complex? Or just leave them be?
If it means anything, this is the first explicitly violent incident in their relationship.
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