Don't be a stranger.
July 12, 2012 5:58 PM Subscribe
I'd like to find a friendly, sociable group of people to live with in Boston/Cambridge/Somerville. How do I search for this on craigslist?
For the past year, I've barely seen my 4 housemates. Usually they just hole up in their rooms, and even eat elsewhere since they rarely seem to use the kitchen. This is the opposite of the living situation I want, so I'm looking for a new place.
I would love to live in a house with people who cook for each other, have dinner together (maybe once a week or so), and generally look forward to talking and spending time together in the evenings. I'd like it to feel more like coming home to family, or at least to friends.
I've already tried asking people I know if they have rooms available for August/September - they don't. I have applied to a few coops, but they seem to be very picky about who they select to live with them, and so far none have accepted me even though I'm interested in intentional community, shared meals, DIY stuff, etc. (In fact, most of the coops scheduled an interview with me and then canceled it, saying they had already filled the spot.)
So I'm back to looking on craigslist. But almost every single ad is the same - looking for "professional," "friendly," "laid-back," "easy-going," "responsible," "respectful" housemates. Well, I'm all of those things, but I also want to actually spend time together with and care about the people I live with! How do I search for that? What are the secret or not-so-secret words to look for? And how can I tell the difference between people whose idea of being "social" is having a conversation once a month vs. regularly having dinner together?