Why am I being contacted by my ex-boyfriend's roommate about my ex-boyfriend?
July 11, 2012 11:02 AM Subscribe
Why is my ex-boyfriend's roommate contacting me anonymously about my ex-boyfriend, 6 months after we broke-up? If this has happened to you, what did you think it meant?
posted by pixienat to Human Relations (67 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Things ended badly between my ex and I. He was an ableist jerk who made no room to empathise or understand my anxiety issues and wrote me off as someone who didn't trust him for no reason and always paranoid. He left me sobbing in front of my house on Valentine's day after our dinner and I haven't seen him or heard from him since. The next day he sent me a rather vicious e-mail telling me all of my problems and not even ending the e-mail in a nice manner at all.
I have a statcounter on my tumblr, which logs IP addresses and I've noticed this one IP for many weeks viewing my tumblr. Yesterday I posted a photo of my ex and I got an anonymous message telling me "Your ex has moved on...he happy. I hope you've met someone who makes you happy too". Looking at the statcounter, the user uses a Macbook, which his female roommate has, not him. I felt very uncomfortable about their friendship because I felt he cared for her more than he did for me (I was neglected as a child yadda yadda yadda...), and I also felt like she didn't like me at all. I felt very uncomfortable around her, to the point where I didn't want to go over there anymore because I knew that she didn't like me at all.
She sent me another message saying:"I know him. You seem to cycle through "I love him. I wish I were still with someone like him who treats me well" and "I hate him. He has mommy issues. He's selfish and can't deal with my issues." I wasn't trying to be offensive. Just trying to maybe help you find closure. I won't send you anything else. Good luck with your new person, everyone deserves to be happy (not being sarcastic)"
This just seems so...odd. Has anyone ever experienced this, and what did you make it out as? Why is she contacting me? We broke-up months ago, and she's spent hours looking at my tumblr. I'm confused...and creeped out.