How to disperse the fog of comfort.
June 23, 2012 8:04 PM Subscribe
How do you fight the "fog of comfort" in a long term relationship?
posted by itesser to Human Relations (12 answers total) 34 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend (25) and I (27) have been together for about a year. We're not as awesome as we used to be.
All the focus on personal creative projects and improvement we had when we were single has been replaced with a love of sleeping in together and spending full weekends being lazy and going to gastro pubs with friends.
We both want to do better, go on more hikes and crazy adventures, and making things (individually and together), but his bed is just so comfortable.
How do you stay bright and sparkling and avoid taking your significant other for granted? How do you balance individual time and couple time when the latter is so delicious and seems in rare supply?
We both recognize the problem and that we're both complicit in the slide, so I'm looking for solutions that will involve both of us.
I have a hard time sacrificing my beau for the greater good. And he has a hard time sacrificing sleep for the greater experience.
Hope us? Specific guidelines and strategies appreciated.