Last night I was threatened by someone on my property.
June 15, 2012 2:35 PM Subscribe
Last night I was threatened by someone on my property. What should I do to get over feeling vulnerable/anxious?
posted by brevator to Human Relations (21 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I was walking my (new) dog last night when I came home to find a car parked in my driveway. We live on a one way street with few other driveways, so I'm used to cars turning around there. It doesn't usually bother me. There was a man smoking a cigarette talking with two guys in the car. As I turned down the driveway to go to my back door I said to them "Hey guys, I'm gonna need to pull out in a few minutes." The guys in the car were seemingly nice and said something like "Sure, no problem," but the guy smoking the cigarette said "Yeah, when we're ready." I turned around and said "Excuse me?" That's when he started with "Yeah, you heard me f*gg*t. I'm not afraid of your dog, I'll come over there and kick your a$$." He looked like he probably could kick my ass, and I imagine this sort of aggression is from steroid abuse. I was pretty incensed at this- this is my house, and my wife and daughter were asleep inside. I stood my ground (I'm pretty sure that having a pit bull by my side helped give me confidence). He continued to threaten me and call me names, saying things like "yeah, now I know where you live f*gg*t," but actually crossed the street and started walking away. I followed him for a few houses, mostly because I wanted to see if he lived on my block (I've never seen him before). He started walking back toward me, still yelling threats and insults when I screamed something like "You're on my property?! In my driveway!? I am totally with my rights!" I'm not entirely sure what I meant by that, but I was pretty upset. That's when his friends pulled up along side him grabbed him. His friend said something like "Okay man, I'm getting him out of here, you just chill." At that point I said "thank you," to his friend and went into my house.
I didn't get the license plate of the car because I was too emotionally charged to be thinking straight. I also didn't call the cops.
I'm struggling with a few different emotions. I'm scared that I'm going to run into this asshole again, or he's going to look for me, and this time I won't have my dog, or he'll have a weapon, or his friends won't be as reasonable.
Part of me wants to run into this asshole again and kick the ever living shit out of him (though that is almost certainly a fantasy, he was pretty built).
I feel dumb for not getting the license plate or calling the cops.
If I see him at my house again, clearly I will call the cops, but unless he threatens me again, it will just be his word (and maybe his friends) vs mine.
tl;dr- previously unknown asshole threatened me with violence outside my house. He now claims he "knows were I live."
I guess I'm just looking for advice from people who have been in similar situations.