The murderer who killed my friend and attempted to kill me wants to apologize.
Please read this earlier question of mine.
I have received a notice the murderer has written and wants to send a "letter of apology" as part of a "...restorative justice model intended to hold the inmate accountable by accepting responsibility, making amends, and understanding the impact of his actions." The letter is addressed to me and the family of the murder victim.
I am unsure whether I should accept this letter, for several reasons:
1: I am not interested in correspondence with this person. Many years ago I made a decision to avoid giving him any of my time or thoughts beyond that which was necessary eg. the trial and parole hearing.
2: Whatever he says is meaningless. He is not apologizing because he is sorry. Writing an apology to the victims is part of his parole process.
3. I do not want the murderer or the parole board to think everything is now okay because he has apologized. This apology is for his benefit, not ours.
4: I am curious to know what the letter says even though I know it will not change how I feel and it will not bring me closure. I found that a long time ago on my own.
I have 3 questions:
- Have you received a letter like this? Did you accept it? How did you feel after reading it?
- Does my agreeing to receive the letter legally indicate approval or acceptance of the apology?
- Does my agreeing or refusing to receive the letter change or impact his chances for parole?
Please, no lectures about prison rehabilitation or why this person should be set free. He is a very dangerous man and needs to be incarcerated for the rest of his life.
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