My friend is in crisis. What can I do?
June 8, 2012 11:44 AM Subscribe
My friend is in extreme crisis after his wife of seven years left him completely out of the blue. I'm not sure what to do to help him. Relevant details inside.
posted by ronofthedead to Human Relations (19 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My friend called yesterday afternoon to say his wife of seven years had indicated she was unsure about the future of the marriage and was leaving the house to spend time with a friend. Today, he called to tell me she called it quits.
They have one child, an 18-month-old girl, together. She has one son from a previous marriage, and he has three other daughters. Primary custody for all of the kids has been with my friend and his wife.
He's a writer who has had a number of books published, but makes almost no income from his writing. Until a recent health-problem, he worked full time as an in-home caretaker for individuals with severe disabilities. The health problems (severe heart condition) have forced him to cut back on his hours. She's a teacher and makes more money, especially now that his hours are down.
His parents live 700 miles away, and they aren't particularly close anyway. I'm his closest friend, and I have little to offer in the way of support aside from whatever encouraging words I can muster to try to ease his pain.
He's really freaking out right now about the future, both immediate and long-term. He's on medication for depression to boot. I really want to figure out something concrete that can be offered to get him through this, but I'm coming up blank.
This is all occurring in semi-rural Kansas, U.S.A., where social services are lacking, to say the least. Any suggestions/ideas would be greatly appreciated.