Leaving the city?
May 26, 2012 9:46 AM Subscribe
For the past few months I've been strongly considering moving from NYC back to the flyover state I came from, that my parents and extended family live in. I made the initial move to NYC in a matter of weeks (from decision to actual Greyhound bus ticket to temp job). Now I'm older and more cautious.
posted by bunderful to grab bag (17 answers total) 20 users marked this as a favorite
I'm single. I can't see myself buying a home and settling down in NYC. I'd like to be closer to my parents as they age. I miss the easy access to nature. NYC seems to have me stuck in an extended adolescent phase (I'm edging towards 40). I wonder if it would be easier to find a mate if I weren't in NYC. I stayed in NY for a long time thinking that my career might take off but it hasn't - and it isn't going to. I'm just not very career-oriented. Moving would be a pretty uncomplicated process - just clothes and books and musical instruments. I have friends I care about here but there's no role I fill here that can't be easily replaced by someone else.
There are many things I love about the city but I'm also stressed at being surrounded by noise and people and yet so unconnected. No one hugs here. I miss the hug greeting. I feel almost instantly happier when I get out of the city to open skies and green spaces.
I have this fantasy of having a house (a house! to myself!) sitting on a porch looking at a garden (a garden!) and drinking iced tea and listening to the birds while having meaningful chats with friends and family. Being part of a community. Being there to make a casserole when a cousin has a baby or an aunt breaks a hip. However, most of my friends back home have gotten married and had kids while I was gone. Everything will be different. My first year back I expect to struggle with depression and re-learning to drive.
What questions can I ask myself that will make this decision more clear? What other factors should I consider?