I want to be alone! (but I want to want to NOT be alone...)
May 25, 2012 1:03 PM Subscribe
My job (which I love) is sapping my small reserve of social energy and killing my (already near non-existent) social life. I don't want to be a hermit! How can I get more interested in doing things with people after work instead of always cocooning?
posted by Knicke to human relations (25 answers total) 35 users marked this as a favorite
So - I'm an introvert in an extrovert's job. But I love my job, and I'm good at it. It's very rewarding, and suits me better than most previous jobs. Changing jobs is not an option right now.
However, I'm a EXTREME introvert and working with the public is taxing for me. At the end of the day, I'm mentally exhausted from being "on" all the time, and the idea of doing anything with a few friends (let alone meeting new people) is just unappealing. Actually, that's not 100% true - being around people is often appealing, but my batteries are so depleted that it's often hard to initiate and/or participate in conversation. And making plans or initiating social situations is equally daunting (not scary, just exhausting to think about). I need a lot of alone time to feel refreshed; by the time I have enough, the weekend is almost over and it's time to go back to work! Not an ideal situation for building and maintaining friendships.
I would like to keep the friends I have, and make more friends! Investigate some fun activities. Maybe even date. :) And I'd like to keep my job! What are some strategies I can use to "increase my battery capacity", so to speak, or to charge my batteries more quickly, or to conserve my energy so I have something left over for my social/personal life?
Thanks for any ideas you might have.