Harmless glance or red flag?
May 21, 2012 2:03 PM Subscribe
My sister received a dream job offer but for one thing - the man who will be her direct supervisor was definitely looking at her boobs both times she went into the office for the interviews.
posted by pluot to human relations (33 answers total)
My sister is looking to get out of a toxic work situation and has recently received a job offer that is perfect in many ways. Great location, great salary, great learning opportunities. She would love to jump on this, but...
One thing is giving her pause - she went into the office twice for interviews, and the man who will be her supervisor checked her out pretty obviously both times. He was professional in every other way, but he was definitely looking at her boobs.
Situational details -
They were sitting across a table from each other, and she described it as, he was giving equal attention to looking at her face, then looking at her boobs, and then glancing at her resume.
My sister is in her mid-twenties. She is very attractive, and she has a good figure. She was completely covered up with no cleavage showing. She was wearing a button-down shirt and suit jacket, and she kept her jacket on. (Note - I'm NOT implying that inappropriate glances can be blamed on what the lady is wearing, just trying to give as detailed a picture as possible.)
The interviewer was the company VP, in his mid-fifties. Seemed professional aside from not being able to tear his eyes from her chest. This person would be working closely with her, training her for the first couple of months, and then she would report to him once she had the hang of things.
Enough time has passed since the first interview that my sister had forgotten about the guy checking her out. She went in again, this time wearing a loose, non-form-hugging button down shirt. And she noticed this person checking out her boobs again.
Is this a red flag? Would you, in your professional experience, consider this a clumsy but harmless mistake on the part of the interviewer, or consider it a red flag?
Can y'all think of any way my sister could address this person before accepting/rejecting the job offer? She would be game to try talking to this person, but doesn't know how to do so tactfully.
Lastly, if anyone has constructive comments in general, she'd love to hear about how to deal with getting checked out in the workplace. Do you ignore it, call attention to it ("is there something on my shirt?") or deal with it in another way?