I am feeling miserable because of this job that I can't leave. How can I cope?
May 14, 2012 7:12 PM Subscribe
I accepted a job offer last August that turned out to be completely inadequate for me. I have to live with the consequences of that choice until next December. Help me figure out the best way to cope with this.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (13 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Last year accepted a job offer that I knew didn't fit my profile, but I took the plunge anyway. My hiring managers also knew I wasn't a traditional fit and hired me in part because of it - I work on a technology segment that is changing rapidly and they probably wanted to shake things up a bit by introducing new blood. Another reason I decided to join is because my boss and his boss are nice people, well regarded by everybody who worked with them.
So I accepted the job, and I had to relocate, and as part of the relocation agreement I made a commitment to stay with the company for one year (if I leave the company voluntarily before that, I need to reimburse the relocation costs to the company).
However, since I joined this team, several changes in the market and in the company caused the team's role to move even further away from my area of expertise [*]. Now, even though it pays well, I really dislike my job, and I know I could be doing something that I enjoy more. This is taking a heavy toll on me, and my productivity is suffering. My boss is complaining about my time management skills when I have no problem managing my time - sometime there's stuff that I just flat out decide I won't do because I don't care or because doing it will ruin my mood.
I would be actively looking for another job if it wasn't for the relocation reimbursement costs hanging over my head, and I will leave this job as soon as I can (that has been pretty much decided BTW, so no need to try to convince me to stay - I AM leaving this job shortly after December).
So what should I do?
Option 1: Part of me thinks I should just keep winging it until December when my relocation agreement expires. My boss will keep thinking I'm kind of unreliable, but the parts of the work I do well will somewhat compensate for it and I'll keep going through the motions until I can find another job. The risk is that my level of frustration may rise further and the job may become absolutely unbearable from now until the end of the year, which will make me unable to even wing it properly.
Option 2: Another part of me thinks I should go to my boss and tell him my productivity is faltering because I hate my job. Knowing my boss, this is a situation he will try to fix (as I said, he's a good person), and I am not sure I want to (or have the energy to) go through a trial and error process to "fix" my job, knowing full well that (1) this is very likely a futile exercise (there's nothing to "fix", I just don't like the job) and (2) I will leave as soon as possible after my relocation agreement expires.
There are probably other options that I can't think about because I am feeling stuck. Help me Metafilter! I am feeling miserable at this job I can't leave.
[*] Note: I am not the only one affected by these changes - though the rest of the team is more marketing oriented than me, several team members are unhappy that we're doing so much of sales support work and not enough product definition work.