Oh, baby, put me to sleep!
May 12, 2012 7:38 AM Subscribe
Please help me make sex boring.
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (21 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I can not fall asleep after sex. Not just in a "I can't roll over and start snoring" kind of way, I mean this in a "I will not fall asleep for several hours - if at all" kind of way. It's become a problem for my relationship and I could use some suggestions to make sex more... sleepy-making.
That's my basic question: please help me figure out how to fall asleep more easily after sex.
Here are the relevant details of my situation:
- I have a sleep disorder (Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome) which is otherwise very well controlled. Post-coitus is the only time I have trouble sleeping. However, controlling a sleep disorder means I'm already taking medication and can not add OTC sleeping pills or get a prescription for Ambien or the like because I already do that. I'm already medicated to get sleep. I can't change my medication as it took *years* to get it right.
- I have a young child and can not simply move sex earlier in the evening. My partner and I were able to do this pre-baby and it worked fine. However, we currently need to wait until kiddo is asleep which means that pre-my-bedtime is the only available window of opportunity for getting it on. Putting the tot in front of the TV for an hour isn't an option - I would absolutely not be able to focus on sexy fun times in that situation.
- I'm 31, a lady, and have been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for five years. The sex itself is great. No complaints about that. It's always been true for me that sex ramps me *up* energy wise instead of calming me down. This has been true throughout all relationships. It's becoming a big issue now as after pregnancy and breastfeeding my hormones are now starting to even out and I'm regaining the libido I lost - only to find that I'm very, very wary about initiating sex or allowing it to happen at all as I know I won't sleep that night. This makes sex a pretty rare event around here, which bothers me, and while my partner hasn't outright complained - I know that he very rightly would like to fix this issue.
I think that's it - please help retrain my brain to find sex less exciting!