Should I send my condolences in hard-form?
April 27, 2012 10:10 AM Subscribe
My cousin's wife just lost her baby at 4 months along. This is her second miscarriage (one full-term pregnancy in between, daughter is now 1.5 y/o). I would like to send a card or have flowers delivered, but is it appropriate?
posted by kthxbi to Human Relations (27 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My (large) family spreads news like a wild fire. Cousin's mom called my mom, who immediately called me. I don't know if this is one of those situations where cards/flowers are appropriate, or if we're all just supposed to sit around silently and never bring it up (seems harsh to me, but basically what happened after first miscarriage).
I guess the one thing holding me back is that cousin didn't personally tell me - I heard it from my mom who heard it from his mom.
I live on the other side of the country. Cousin and I are around the same age and grew up playing together often, but I wouldn't say we're overly close.