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April 26, 2012 4:04 PM Subscribe
What is an appropriate amount to spend on a wedding gift for myself and my guest, if I am a bridesmaid?
posted by anonymous to human relations (16 answers total)
I am in a wedding next weekend. I would like to know what is a socially acceptable amount of money to give as a gift. I have never been to a wedding before, so I am nervous about this.
Do the expenses incurred as part of being a bridesmaid impact the gift at all? I am the same age of the bride and I don't make a ton of money. I've bought a dress, the shoes, paid for my share of the bridal shower, as well as my share of the bachelorette party. Is this a mitigating factor at all when giving a wedding gift? The total for all of that together is probably around $300.
We are not especially close friends and I was a little surprised when she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. We were very close in middle school but have drifted farther and farther apart ever since. My guest (boyfriend of 3 years) has never met her. I had never met any of the other bridesmaids and have no contact with them.
I would rather have personal opinions than "if she's your friend ANY amount will be fine!". What is a good amount to give that does not look cheap but is not too much?
Secondary: is giving cash tacky? I'll of course be writing a nice card but just figured I'd put the bills inside. Is there a better method? She has a registry but the wedding is very soon (yikes) and it looks as though its pretty picked over except for the very expensive stuff.