Overcoming shame after quitting a job
April 18, 2012 11:13 AM Subscribe
I quit a job without notice more than a year ago, and I still haven't fully recovered. Please help me overcome my shame and move on with my life.
posted by constellations to Work & Money (31 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Long story short, I chose a college major and profession for the wrong reasons (among them: a sense of obligation to my mother who disapproved of my dream careers, job security, stable income, potential for advancement). Needless to say, I became extremely depressed, and six weeks into orientation for my first full-time job within that profession, I had a panic attack and made the rash decision to quit the job without notice. I was well-aware of the consequences, namely that I would be ineligible for rehire.
A year and a half later, I am still filled with a sense of shame about quitting that position. Whenever I fill out a job application and get to the section on employment history, my stomach sinks because I know that position is a huge blemish on my resume.
I've been trying my best to recover from these mistakes (choosing the wrong major/career, accepting then quitting that first job), but no matter how much time passes, they continue to haunt me. I'm tired of hating myself for these failures.
1) Am I completely unemployable?
2) What can I do to give myself a sense of closure and feel optimistic about my career prospects once again?
Thanks for your help.