Goodbye and goodnight
April 16, 2012 10:15 AM Subscribe
How to have a good last visit with a sick relative. She will recognize me, but her memory is pretty shot beyond that.
posted by momus_window to Human Relations (19 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'll be spending a few days visiting family to have a last visit with a relative on hospice. I've been finding it increasingly hard to carry on phone conversations with her, because she's tired and very confused/forgetful (doesn't know what day of the week it is, remembering a major life event differently from how it happened, losing her politeness filter, cognitive damage generally). I last saw her at Christmas, and she moved into a retirement home shortly after that. How can I make this a comforting and pleasant visit for her? I'm thinking I'll talk about fun things we did together when I was a child, for starters. Pictures of us? Just sitting?
I would also like to make something to leave with her, I'm thinking perhaps a soft toy or little sewn/knitted something. We used to sew and knit together, but she is too ill to do so now.
Bonus: How to help the other relatives during this time beyond cleaning/cooking/errands and being a willing ear?