April 2, 2012 4:38 PM Subscribe
I didn't get into graduate school. All of my hopes/dreams/etc. were riding on this. Now what?
posted by oxfordcomma to work & money (37 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I apologize if this question is a mess. I’m extremely depressed over this situation, and I’m having some trouble explaining the extent of the frustration and hopelessness I feel. Any general [or specific] advice would be greatly appreciated.
Long story short: I was rejected from two out of the three schools I applied to, and didn't get funding for the third one. I was an incredibly strong candidate and 2/3 programs I applied to were state universities. I didn't even prepare for this possibility, and i'm at a complete loss as to what I should do now. All I know is that I need to radically overhaul my life, but I don’t know how to go about it or what to do.
I graduated in May 2011 with a bachelor’s degree in History, which is fairly useless without an advanced degree. While I had applied to law schools in my senior year, I didn't have time to take the GRE and apply to graduate programs in history. I work part time as a bartender, and I attend law school [which I really dislike and will not return to after this semester]. I currently live with my dad, and I hate the rural area I live in. I have an abusive ex-boyfriend who lives in the area, and I'm afraid to go out alone in case I run into him. The few friends I have are people I was friends with in high school, but now our interests have drifted hopelessly apart. Meeting people in this area is pretty much impossible, and useless, as most people in my age range only care about smoking pot and popping out kids. There are no job opportunities here other than call centers and retail positions. Staying in this area is not a possibility.
Financially, I have about $40K in student loan debt and almost no savings.
So, what are my next steps?
How much money should I save up before I go? How should I begin looking for apartments in this new city?
What American cities should I be looking into?
In terms of where I want to move I’m looking for a large population of other young, intelligent people, cultural activities, low[er] cost of living, and a moderate-to-strong job market. It doesn’t have to be a major city, but I’m not looking to move to a rural area [or Suburbs more than 15 minutes away from a city].
How do I find a job in this new city? What kind of jobs should I look for?
Right now, I feel so utterly defeated that I’m open to any jobs that I could reasonable hope to get with my educational/work background.
What avenues should I use to find a job in a new city? Craigslist? Local newspapers?