Being Mentored by Boss and Colleagues are Feeling Insecure!
March 19, 2012 1:40 AM Subscribe
How should I handle this tricky situation at work? My boss has taken me under her wing to guide me on the path of success. I feel she did this because I was open to her assistance. We have now developed a friendly "quid pro quo" type of agreement. She assists me by sharing her expertise on certain work-related items and vice-versa. I will in turn share with my colleagues when I feel capable of doing so. Some of my closest colleagues are feeling insecure about my friendly and close relationship with our boss. It seems like they feel threatened by it...like they think I am privy to all this "important information" that I won't share with them.
posted by thatgirl1985 to human relations (15 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I work in the Arabian Gulf. The whole culture here is heavily focused on interpersonal relationships. Failure to cultivate strong rapport here is social and career suicide. I work in a place that is all women. I am a late-twenties American woman. I'm single and the youngest person at the company. My boss is an early-forties Egyptian woman who is divorced with kids. My colleagues are Egyptian and American. Most are married and have kids at home.
Two of my American colleagues are feeling uneasy about my relationship with our boss. I tried to explain to them that our boss is assisting me so that I can assist them in turn. They said they felt like I was trying be "The Best" in our department and was withholding information from them. I feel very hurt by this accusation and frustrated by their feelings of insecurity and lack of faith in the abilities of our boss.
I told my boss about my colleagues' concerns and she advised me to try to repair my relationship with them, but to keep doing my very best at my job no matter who anyone else thinks about it. So in other words, don't burn the bridge, but don't go running back to the other side, either!
What's a girl to do?