Toddler potty help
March 13, 2012 6:21 PM Subscribe
Potty training question for the more experience MeFi parents out there:
We've been potty training out 33 month old for the past 2.5 months with some good success overall, but we're dealing with some poop problems.
posted by thelaze to human relations (27 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
She's pretty good at peeing in the potty, although we often have to nag her to go and she tries to hold it sometimes for hours and hours out of sheer stubbornness until the inevitable occurs. But things still seem to be moving in the right direction wrt to peeing with fewer accidents and more confidence, etc.
With pooping however, she's developing the unfortunate habit of going in her diaper at bedtime. She's only about 50/50 at staying dry overnight so she's still in a diaper then (but in undies during the day). What's been happening is this: lots of farting during the day making it clear that there's a poop literally brewing in her gut, but no matter how much we get her to sit on the potty before bed she won't poop there, then when the whole bedtime routine is over (ie, potty, pj's, story, last sip of water, etc) and she's mostly settled down, THEN she poops her diaper.
She seems genuinely upset about this happening but no matter how much we encourage her to sit on the potty and get her to agree to call us if she's about to poop so we can take her to the potty, it still happens. During the day she's on and off with poop successes, but she has shown herself to be capable of getting to the potty on time. The worry is that she's getting conditioned to poop under these specific circumstances, and that it will be even more difficult to break this habit and make the move to fully potty trained.
We're at a loss as to how to help her go in the potty, and we feel bad about how upset she is when it happens, even though we generally keep a pretty neutral tone to accidents (although I will admit we have scolded her lightly in the past out of frustration - spend 30 minutes trying to get your kid to poop on the potty only to have them go 2 minutes after the diaper goes on will break anyone's resolve to be even toned.) Any advice out there?