Dysfunctional family funeral
February 23, 2012 1:22 PM Subscribe
Non-deist, non- spiritual funeral for dysfunctional family
posted by b33j to human relations (28 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
My mother was discovered dead yesterday. She had lung cancer and heart problems, so not unexpected.
Me and my two local sibs are meeting with funeral director today, here's the thing (s).
None of the family are church goers
My mother refused to speak to me over last decade though I tried reconciliation a number of times
Some other sibs in other parts of country who may or may not be coming to funeral - well, they get on with my brothers but not me so much
Despite the distance & as one brother puts it, her toxicity, I am grieving
So 2 questions: what are appropriate (non religious) honest but not insensitive funeral things to make part of ceremony?
What do I need to be doing to make things as comfortable as possible for those relatives who will not be happy with me being there (perhaps hypocritically in their eyes)