Circadian sexuality circus
February 20, 2012 10:30 AM Subscribe
What might cause a 'scheduled' sexuality change/shift, regularly, in a man?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (8 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I've known I am attracted to both men and women since I was fairly young, though it took a few years to come to terms with this. For the most part, I prefer women, and feel more comfortable making romantic connections with them. However, about one week in 5 or so, I'll drop nearly all of this attraction and fantasize much more about men. There'll usually be a 50/50 transition period afterwards and then I'll be all about women for a few more weeks. I've also noted the intensity of my sex drive varying greatly along some sort of schedule, but have never figured out a way to judge both of these continuum(s?) from an objective point of view, to establish some sort of actual pattern.
This really confuses me, because I've never even heard of a similar situation; I can't put myself anywhere on the Kinsey scale, because my position changes so often, and with a fair degree of polarity (i.e. when I'm into women I think nothing of men, and vice versa, except for short windows of overlap). I know there's a 24-hour male hormone cycle, but nothing over the course of a month+, right?
Details: male, early 20's, decent health; ratio of partners, about 70% female, 30% male. I'm fairly happy with my life, but a few issues have been plaguing me: not into polygamy, so it hurts when I'm in a relationship and my attraction to the SO drops for a time; and although I'm up front about it, it feels unfair to any(usually gay) male partners that I really don't want to see them more than once in a few weeks.